There’s an eerie silence that accompanies death. When people depart from this world, their voices are no longer heard. But some voices echo forever. These are the voices of the noble luminaries who, with their actions, leave footprints in the sands of time. Their impressions remain with us forever. Socrates ( Ancient Greek Philosopher 470BC-399BC )
Such a person was my mom. A beautiful woman, small with dark curly hair, dark brown eyes and a smile that lit up her face. She was fiercely loyal, with strong moral codes, not a woman of many words, but still her voice and her actions will echo in the lives of those around her. Although she was not very demonstrative in her love, she loved deeply. She showed her love with small deeds such as a tin of rusks, a cake, a home cooked meal or a bunch of flowers. No visitor left her home empty handed.
The youngest of seven children, she started working at the age of sixteen. She married my father when she was 25 years old and her loyalty was such, that she cared for him for 15 years, in the process neglecting herself and her own health to such an extent that she died only three months after he passed away.They were married for 64 years.
Her happiest moments were when she could be in her garden amongst the roses and other blooming plants and many who knew her well, will remember the beautiful flowers picked in her garden which she loved to give.
She taught me many life lessons, but the most important ones are:
- Be loyal to your commitments, be it in personal relationships, work or leisure.
- Never ever participate in idle talk and gossip.
- Always work hard and give your best no matter how small or unimportant the task.
- Never complain about life circumstances, rather live life in the circumstances to the best of your ability
- Respect other people’s privacy.
- Love, respect and care for books.
This week we face the final goodbye, but her voice will echo in my life and in the lives of other family members.I write this as a tribute to her and trust that generations to come in our family will gain some insight in her life and their inheritance as her descendants.